Sexuality- Knowing the inner you

“Sexuality is the lyricism of masses.”
I don’t exactly remember where I read this, but it hit me hard. In the modern 21st century days, sexuality has become an important topic. The main reason for it coming into the limelight is because sexuality is not just a feeling anymore; it has become a way of expressing ourselves, a way of life.
Whenever someone opens Tinder, the first thing one sees is the sexual orientation of the other person. And honestly, though having it all figured out is good, it gets a little confusing and annoying.
So, I have come up with this article to tell you about the most asked questions on sexuality. Later, I would also give you a piece of my mind on things I feel are illogical while discussing sexualities.
So, let’s get started.

What are the prominent types of sexualities?
Allosexual
Any person who experiences a sexual attraction towards another person is allosexual. Allosexism doesn’t describe which gender you are attracted to, but rather the fact if you are sexually attracted to someone at all or not. It can be said to be the opposite of asexuality.

Androsexual
Androsexual is a person who experiences sexual attraction towards men and masculinity.

Asexual
Those people who don’t experience any sexual attraction towards any gender are called asexuals. But, this doesn’t mean that they don’t involve in romantic relationships. Sometimes they do get romantically attracted towards other people, but not sexually. This sexuality also doesn’t depend on whom you are attracted to because it is more about you.

Autosexual
People who are sexually attracted to themselves are known as autosexuals. They desire to engage in masturbation rather than having sex with others.

Bisexual
The emotion of getting sexually, romantically, and emotionally attracted towards both genders is known as bisexuality.

Cupiosexual
A sexual orientation that describes the people who don’t experience sexual attraction but still desire to engage in sex is cupiosexuality.

Demisexual
The people who experience a sexual attraction towards a person only after building an emotional or romantic bond are known as demisexuals.

Graysexual
Graysexuality refers to the grey area between asexuality and allosexism. Those people who experience limited sexual attraction come under this sexuality.

Gynesexual
Those people who experience sexual attraction towards women or feminity are known as gynesexuals.

Heterosexual
The term used to describe the people who get sexually attracted towards people of the opposite gender are heterosexuals.

Homosexuality
Homosexuality describes those people who get sexually attracted to the same gender as theirs.

Metrosexual
Metrosexual refers to a heterosexual man who has similar interests that are associated with homo men or women.

Monosexual
The people who get attracted to only one gender are known as monosexuals. Monosexuals include both homo and heterosexuals, but not bisexuals and asexuals.

Omnisexual
An Omnisexual is a person who gets attracted to all irrespective of their gender or sexuality.

Pansexual
As said in the famous series Sex Education, pansexual refers to those attracted to a person, not the sex or gender. The difference between omnisexual and pansexual is that omnisexuals notice the other person’s gender or sexualities, while pansexuals get attracted to a person irrespective of their gender or sexualities.

Polysexual
Polysexuality refers to those people who get sexually attracted to more than one gender. Bisexuality, omnisexuality, and pansexuality come under polysexuality. It is the opposite of monosexuality.

Pomosexual
Pomosexual refers to a person who doesn’t believe in sexuality labels. This person doesn’t like his or her sexuality to come under a conventional category.

Retrosexual
A heterosexual man believes in traditional masculinity. He dresses and behaves like a typical patriarch.

Sapiosexual
Sapiosexuality is getting attracted to a person based on their intelligence rather than sexuality or gender.

Skoliosexualo
Skoliosexual is a person who gets attracted to trans or nonbinary people.

Spectrasexual
Those people who get attracted to different sexualities in the spectrum but not all of them are spectrasexuals.

Is it common for people to question their sexual orientation?
Yes. It is common for people to question their sexual orientation. It is a fact that sexuality is very fluid. No one is born with fixed sexuality.

Can my sexual orientation change with time?
Yes. We may experience some changes in our sexual orientation. As most romantic movies portray, we don’t realize which kind of people we get attracted to until we meet the right one. So, you may have lived in a black area till now about your sexual preferences.

Is sexual orientation a choice?
No. One cannot pick a desired sexuality. It is not your choice. But, it is our choice if we want to act on our feelings and attractions.

Can therapy or medicines change sexual orientation?
Hell, no. Our sexual orientation is a personality trait that defines us. It is not like a habit that can be changed whenever we want. No therapy or medicines can change what you are. We should accept ourselves for what we are.

Is it possible that I can pinpoint my exact sexual orientation?
Not completely. Though there is a long list of sexualities, no one perfectly fits in. Most people are a mix of various sexual orientations. But that’s what makes us more human. Each one of us is different in what we from love and sex. So, it is possible that you can’t coin an exact term for your sexual orientation.

Well, sometimes, sexual orientation and the various terms associated with it can get on our nerves. Most of us don’t know who we are and what we are seeking and, seeing these terms on dating apps can make it even more annoying. But, understand that however overwhelming these terms get, these types of sexual orientations were listed in the first place to make you feel less anxious. Many people experience various kinds of sexual attractions and, the terms associated are talked of only because we don’t want anyone to feel alone.
Expanding our knowledge about the terms associated with sexual orientation helps us seek better guidance, validation, and access to the community. It helps us to be on the right path of self-discovery, self-love, and acceptance.